Mediation is a private, informal and confidential process designed to result in a written agreement that provides each party with a better outcome than they would have if no agreement was reached. While not all mediations result in agreement, most do and many people find that the agreements they reach are more desirable and durable than if an outside authority imposed a decision. In mediation, the parties maintain control over the outcome. Whether family members are involved in a formal dispute or are simply in disagreement about difficult decisions, mediation addresses that family’s unique needs. A mediator’s role is to establish a forum for communication and negotiation, to help generate viable options, and to assist in weighing the benefits and risks of those options. A mediator is a neutral, impartial person who will not take one side over another, but will help each person negotiate to his or her best ability and make well reasoned decisions.
Mediation is not therapy, nor should it be considered a substitute for therapy when that service is needed. However, when therapy is not needed but communication is difficult, mediation and/or facilitation can provide a structured process for dialogue.
A Mediator does not provide legal advice to, nor advocate for, any party. When mediation sessions are held parties are encouraged to seek the advice of legal counsel before signing an agreement.
Mediation sessions can be scheduled in half or full day sessions or they can be done in shorter sessions over a period of time. I can discuss with you the advantages and disadvantages of each approach. Parties may choose to conduct a trial run of an agreement on a short term basis to see how well it works before committing to it as the final agreement. This option is often favored by parents who are trying out a new parenting plan. Prior to the mediation session, I will meet with each party to establish expectations and family needs.
